My Amor, my king, my priest, my lord, my friend,
my lover, my companion, my heart, my other half, my husband you are the archetype of a man of God.
I praise the Lord because you are blessed, you are a man that fears the Lord and you delight in His commandments. Babe our offspring, our children, our children’s children will be mighty in the land and that generation will be blessed. I see the wealth and the riches in your house my king and your righteousness endures forever. You are a giver and the lender and are a just man, you my Prince, are blessed (Psalms 112:1-10)
When I look at you, I see God I see that He created you in His likeness (Gen 1:26) and he gave you dominion. You mighty man of valor (Judges 6:12) your boldness, courage and resilience is the fruit of
your faithfulness and your beliefs in what God is and who He is and it is a testament and it blesses me.
You are indeed a man, strong, watchful and standing firm in your
faith and everything you do is in love (1 Cor 16:13-14). You do not walk in the
counsel of the wicked therefore you are blessed my love, you delight in the law
of the Lord and you meditate on it day and night. You are firmly planted and
despite all the hats you wear, everything you have to do you do not waiver and
for that I can follow you as you follow Christ. I know that everything you do
and touch will prosper and be blessed so I command you to touch me alllll the
time ;) (Psalms 1:1-6)
I am so thankful that what you teach is appropriate to sound doctrine. I’m glad
you teach young men to be self-controlled through your actions. You are setting
an example by doing what is good. Your teaching shows integrity, seriousness,
and the soundness of your speech cannot be condemned because you are a man of
integrity and those who oppose you will be ashamed because they will not have anything bad to say about you. (Titus 2:1-8)
You are a joy to have in my life and I love you! You have been an inspiration and encourager and lover. Thank you for your prayers and your kind words. Despite all that we have been through it has been a lot if not more joy than sorrow… I feel us becoming one. Although you may not believe it you are beginning to love me like Christ loves the church. I hope and pray I am the wife and woman you need and desire and what God wants for you ;)
You and I are a team and my prayer is for us to strengthen our marriage so that we will not allow the enemy any room to try to destroy us. You are my best friend whether you like it or not!
I find myself trying to protect you and us physically, spiritually, and emotionally trying to protect our image, our integrity, how people see us but it’s both of us that need to be mindful of our actions and interactions. People are going to hate and talk bad about us but I rather them hate because of God’s blessings and favor on us and not based on our mindless behavior.
I know we are going to live a blessed life with brilliant children just like their daddy. Thanking God for EVERY moment we have had and looking forward to making lasting memories.
I see us being a huge blessing to sooo many people. I see us living that blessed life God has for us. I see us running an empire also known as Corbett Enterprises LLC. I see children that look like us,
talk like us, goofy like us smart like us running around the house and us! I see family traditions and trips! I see so much greatness!
Love, love love you!
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year,
Love your Wife Forever!
You my dear, are a rare and sacred vessel. How do I know that? Well God made you and in HIS image. You were chosen out of millions of “Sea Men” to represent God here on earth. You are a pearl. Pearls have a simple yet elegant beauty about them. Pearls symbolize Purity, Spiritual Transformation, Charity, Honesty, Wisdom and Integrity, all the best within us (link
) To me they represent a lady.
Imagine how the pearl became a pearl. It started off as a grain of sand locked in a dark place where life got a hold of it. Lots of pressure from everything around it causing friction and irritation. But then someone found it and opened it and in it was beauty. That is God molding and shaping us into this beautiful gem representing what God does for us. We have become God's masterpiece, His beautiful art.
Matt 7:6 "Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces. What does this mean? Just think about it dogs are seemingly aggressive and savages they tear things up. And pigs, an unclean animal that lives in the mud. Really, throw beautiful pearls to it? It is just going to stomp all over it. Why give your pearls, your holiness to something or someone that will never see the value in it? But do not go around labeling people as pigs or dogs just because they are not for you does not mean they are not for somebody else. What I am saying is HEAR God when it comes to finding someone that will value and cherish those beautiful pearls. 5 Reasons to Stay Sacred and NOT Throw Your Pearls to Pigs:
- You Are Unique- No one can do what you do like you do. They can't look like you, talk like you, produce the greatness that only you can produce. In other words, there is only 1 you and you better own it! Kept wondering why you did not fit in, it's because you are the star of the show! Jeremiah 1:5 Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you; I appointed you a prophet to the nations
- You are Beautiful, Fearfully and Wonderfully Made- For some of us we know we are beautiful others have a hard time believing that. We need so many people to tell us that we are beautiful and still we need more. It took me a long time to really believe that I was beautiful and that God saw me beautiful! It is so true I do not care how much you do NOT look like the people in the magazines... They do not even look like the people in the magazines :) You have to hold on to those pearls until you really believe it because if you do not then those pearls will fall into the wrong hands.
- Your Body is God's Temple- Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body," (1 Cor. 6:19-20). What you put in it, what you allow to go inside of you can either do harm or good. So eat healthier, exercise, get the LIVING WORD in you, read books that will help you grow into the person God wants you to be! Don't allow for men and women to misuse you and abuse you- easier said than done but practice makes almost perfect. What you wear plays a big role what message are you sending even though you may not plan to send any message people are receiving a message from you!
- That ONE is getting ready for you- Are you becoming a wife? Are you preparing yourself for the next step for marriage? Proverbs 18:22 says, when a man findeth a WIFE, not a girl but a wife. You have to be a wife therefore the old you has to die. You can't do childish things anymore. Hold on to those pearls for that ONE that will cherish it FOREVER not just temporarily.
- God entrusted you with those pearls- You have those pearls for a reason. He did not give them to pigs He gave them to a beautiful woman so learn how to cherish, honor and respect them. IF you cannot do that then why do you expect for someone else to? Learn to love yourself; learn yourself period. You are with you all the time and many people do not know who they are, whose they are and what they represent. Better get excited about those pearls.
Just remember if your pearls have been mistreated, used and abused, devalued and trampled on, pick them back up. Go and wash them off. Polish them until you see them shine. Put them back on and wear them proudly. Or put it in your jewelry box until you want to wear them again. God will restore!
Peace and Blessings,
Aesop's Fable- The North Wind and the Sun
The North Wind boasted of great strength. The Sun argued that there was great power in gentleness.
"We shall have a contest," said the Sun.
Far below, a man traveled a winding road. He was wearing a warm winter coat.
"As a test of strength," said the Sun, "Let us see which of us can take the coat off of that man."
"It will be quite simple for me to force him to remove his coat," bragged the Wind.
The Wind blew so hard, the birds clung to the trees. The world was filled with dust and leaves. But the harder the wind blew down the road, the tighter the shivering man clung to his coat.
Then, the Sun came out from behind a cloud. Sun warmed the air and the frosty ground. The man on the road unbuttoned his coat.
The sun grew slowly brighter and brighter.
Soon the man felt so hot, he took off his coat and sat down in a shady spot.
"How did you do that?" said the Wind.
"It was easy," said the Sun, "I lit the day. Through gentleness I got my way."
By the Meekness and gentleness of Christ, I appeal to you (2 Cor 10:1) that gentleness indeed holds such a great power and those who possess that fruit of the Spirit knows exactly what I mean! Here I go AGAIN with this gentleness topic.... I do not know I how got here again, but I am assuming that it needs to be heard.
I am reading many different books for Christian women and two of them are Kingdom Woman by Tony Evans and his daughter, Chrystal Evans Hurst and I keep going back to the book Captivating by John and Stasi Eldredge. Go pick up these amazing books!
Well I was rereading the chapter in Captivating titled, "Arousing Adam" and it was so deep and I just kept hearing gentleness. For the past couple of months I have been struggling with being heard and felt like I was being taken advantage of by so many people and I thought that is was because I was so kind and gentle and so I began to try to be a bit more TOUGH and have an attitude. I began to see people's Diva-like, "Aint nobody got time for that" type attitudes and thought it was working well. I tried it and failed. I felt silly, I felt like it just did not come out as nice as I thought it would. I just wanted to be heard you know. But that was not me.
One day I was with one of my more "Urban" Girl Scout groups, a bunch of 4/5th graders and I spoke to them nicely, did not raise my voice and just was kind to them something they were not used to. But they were being so loud and doing their own thing and I began to get more stern. But then a hall monitor came in loud and putting them in "check" and they got quiet but out of fear. I asked them, "Is that how I need for you all to listen? Be loud and mean or speak to you nicely?" They said, "No, NICELY" I then realized they loved being with me because I was calm and sweet and gentle something they needed but was not used to. So I began to love on them a little bit more when they wanted hugs I gave them hugs, when they wanted to talk I let them talk and I listened. Now ladies, we have become a loud, angry, violent type of women and it has come from so many issues that we have been through and our parents have been through that we keep trying to adapt to this crazy world. Thing about it we are to live in the world not be of it
(John 15:19) that is where we are struggling because we want the world to love us because we love it. 1 John 2:15-17 says, If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride in possessions—is not from the Father but is from the world. And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever. Why can't we be a gentle woman speaking with kindness, showing love and mercy?
I will let you know that the most loud, angry women heavily portrayed in the media is of black women, I see it on videos and even in real life. I am not trying to single any race out that is what I see and what the world sees and people laugh. It is so sad to me. I live in Minnesota, born and raised and seen really old married black couples and very few YOUNG married. Why is that? I went to college in Marshall, MN and saw so many young married white couples and serious relationships. I saw the black football players as just that, "PLAYERS" but they weren't with the black girls, they were with the white girls. A few black guys said they don't like all that loud attitude black girls give and I was like dang.... But oh well. Just earlier I was watching a couple videos people posted on FB of black girls LOUD AND FIGHTING... and the guys just sat around laughing. I remember one thing my husband said while we were dating and even in marriage he needed peace in the home.
Peace not meaning quiet but peace as in serene a place of retreat, a place to be revived and rejuvenated. A place where he WANTED to come home, a place to escape the madness of the world. And why shouldn't he be allowed that? I know I want it! Did you read that story at the top? How the sun won with gentleness? I am telling you, you could get a lot of what you want with being gentle. If you are seeking to get married or need a more peaceful place at home in the marriage you have, just remember that men, the real ones, the ones that want to make YOU THE ONE, want and need a wife to be gentle. Gentle with her words and actions. Here are some scriptures to prove it:
- Proverbs 19:13 ...and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping. (Contentions: heated disagreement, quarreling)
- Proverbs 21:9 Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman.
- Proverbs 21:19 Better to live in a tent in the wild than with a cross and petulant spouse. (The Message Bible)
So if we see that being contentious, petulant, cross, quarreling etc. has the power to drive away our men then what power do we have with showing and being gentle?
- Well Proverbs 25:15 says, Through patience a ruler can be persuaded, and a gentle tongue can break a bone
- And, Proverbs 15: 1 says, A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger
- It also says that it is UNFADING BEAUTY, "Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight." 1 Peter 3:4
- It is also one of the fruits of the Spirit, Galatians 5:23.
So it can break bones, turn away wrath, is forever beautiful, and like Christ... hmmm there seems to be a lot of power. If we are Christians that means we are to being walking like Christ, Christ said,
Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle
and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. (Matt 11:29) Be like Christ, be gentle to those around you, they need the peace, they need rest for their souls. Our men had a long, tough day at work be gentle. Our children was bullied or yelled at, be gentle. Your friends and family are going through a tough time, be gentle... Be gentle to all (2 Tim 2:24)
.I dare you to practice this, you will change your atmosphere for better! Peace and Blessings,Cicely
QUALITIES OF A GODLY WOMAN :
1. She handles herself gracefully (Proverbs 11:16)
2. She loves and embraces children (Psalm 113:9, Titus 2:4)
3. She speaks with wisdom (Proverbs 31:26)
4. She has discretion (Proverbs 11:22)
5. She is able to be fully trusted by her husband (Proverbs 31:11)
6. She desires to be her husband’s most faithful companion and closest confidant (Malachi 2:14)
7. She joyfully embraces being a woman and abhors feminism (Psalm 113:9, Romans 12:9)
8. She can manage her home well (Proverbs 31:27, Titus 2:5, 1 Tim 5:14)
9. She is diligent to accomplish anything entrusted to her care (Proverbs 31:13, 1 Tim 5:10)
10. She is firm in her convictions and desires to teach younger women the virtues of godly
womanhood through her example and instruction. (Titus 2:4)
11. She desires for, and encourages men to be leaders in their families, churches and society. (Isaiah 3:12, Eph. 5:23, Titus 1:5-6)
12. She desires to build up and strengthen her home (Proverbs 14:1)
13. She desires to raise and train the next president, not BE the next
president (Proverbs 31:1, Isaiah 3:12)
14. She believes children are a blessing from God, not a burden (Deut. 7:14, 33:24, 127:3)
15. She has a humble spirit (1 Peter 3:4)
16. She looks up to, follows, and respects her husband as the leader of the home (1 Cor. 14:35, Eph. 5:33)
17. She has a quiet spirit, and influences others through godly conduct (1 Peter 3:1-2, 4, 1 Tim. 2:12)
18. She desires to be a mother of nations, not a leader of nations (Genesis 24:60)
19. She has a heart to open her home to hospitality and service to others (1 Tim. 5:10)
20. She cares for the saints (1 Tim. 5:10)
21. She is capable and skilled to clothe her family and decorate her home (Prov. 31:21-22)
22. She desires to model the examples of holy women in Scripture (1 Peter 3:5)
23. She has skills to prepare meals for her family and bless others through hospitality (Prov. 31:15)
24. She is able to teach her children with practical, life instruction (Proverbs 31:1, 26, 6:20)
25. She desires to please her husband and do him good all his life (Prov. 31:12, 1 Cor. 7:34)
26. She is able to manage a business from her home (Prov. 31:18)
27. She can be trusted with wise discretion in spending (Prov. 31:16)
28. She cares for the poor and the needy (Prov. 31:20)
29. She clothes herself in modesty and good works and does not desire to attract
or distract men’s eyes (1 Peter 3:3-4, 1 Tim. 2:9-10)
30. She has a kind and helpful attitude (Prov. 31:26-27)
31. She is prudent: intelligent, productive, skillful, wise and has understanding (Prov. 19:14)
The other day I was reflecting on time wasted and how not only people wasted my time but I was the main culprit of wasted time. The phrase made famous by a lady whose apartment was on fire always plays in my head, “Aint nobody got time for that”. It plays always when people are wasting my time or other outside forces but never when I am wasting my own time.
I see time as wasted when I am not living up to my full potential on a day to day basis but mostly when others take my time for granted. You see I have been pointing fingers at everybody else thinking they run my life clock but in reality it is all me. I allow for others to run my clock but realizing that I have control over my own actions and God is the official clock runner. He started it and He will end it, it is up to me on how I use my time wisely. Psalms 139:16 “Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.”
I know you have said this a time once before or maybe a lot, “Where has the time gone?” Do you remember all the great things you have done/experienced or are you regretting those moments where you could have done more. Did you give up too soon or did you jump the gun?
This "time" I speak of and we live is a chronos time, you know chronological. We live from point A-Birth to point B-Death. In between those two points God gives us these special moments called Kairos. You can find this Greek term in the New Testament. It is those God-ordained moments, those RIGHT time moments, that appointed season. Those moments when time(chronos) intersect with that ordained point of time(kairos) that is God at work.
You ever feel the presence of God at some time in your day? That is where the Holy Spirit is waiting for the words to be spoken. Look at Genesis 1:2-3 “2 Now the earth was formless and empty, darkness was over the surface of the deep, and the Spirit of God was hovering over the waters. 3 And God said, “Let there be light,” and there was light.” That was a God-ordained moment.
Take a moment or two to reflect on your life can you remember those moments where you just stood there and thought, “ I was at the right place at the right time?” Or thinking, “yes this is my time my season!” Think of those moments. Write them down even.
One thing I realized that the enemy is so real and does not like that God has a purpose and a plan for our lives. The enemy will do so much to stop you before you reach that next Kairos moment. We even block those moments ourselves, we get in the way of God. Either we get scared and begin to sabotage it or we want it so bad we jump the gun and mess it all up. I personally jump the gun which I am working on.
What about you? Are you wanting those awesome God ordained moments without the obstacle’s? Do you want the husband/wife you have been praying and dreaming about but just on your terms, no issues, no fights, no baggage etc? Do you want the job but do not want to work hard to get it or keep it? We do not want the struggles and hardships but we want what God has for us. Or are you the type where we want it but on our time, our schedule- that chronos time? You are thinking ok God, you promised me this but I am getting old, I need it now God. If I do not get it at this time I am going to give up or make it happen for me. When we think like that we END a lot of things prematurely. Did you wait on God for that answer?
If we can just wait on God for that right time, that ordained time, that season through all the ups and downs, what we have to go through to get there we will get it and it will blow your mind. God and the Holy Spirit is working and setting us up for those moments we just cannot grow weary Galatians 6:9 says “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” It says that PROPER TIME- that God-ordained time and then it says we will reap a harvest we just cannot give up.
The past month my husband and I have been just going through it. We definitely were pressing the eject button we were trying, we were getting prepared to go our separate ways. I personally believe that after the storm there will be the rainbow so I knew there was peace coming. However, in the storm it does not feel good at all. But somehow we kicked God out of our marriage and my husband and I were so far apart but right next to each other. We were taking matters into our own hands, I know I had that attitude saying, “God if you don’t hurry up I am leaving”, “God, he needs to change right now because I can’t take it” I put God on a chronological timeline and God is not on our time. We need to just pray and wait for God because I know when He does it, it is going to be AMAZING…. I could not do it or my husband cannot do it as good as our God, there actually is no comparison.
Just have to trust God and believe that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose (Romans 8:28).
So question to you: Would you want it NOW with the little that you have or WAIT till God gives it to you with all His power and abilities?
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Peace and Love
We were just talking about that quiet and meek spirit. Then I read this article.
Where it talked about Michelle "snapping" on a lady that kept interrupting her speech. I was not there but because of all the air time she recieves I just cannot imagine her "snapping" I can see her being disrespected as she was speaking and stood up for herself. The quiet meek spirit does not mean to not speak up for yourself if anything it tells you to be strong and bold in a respectful sense. When I am upset with my husband I am not yelling at him or acting all outside of myself. I am respectfully getting my point across sternly.
Do you think the FLOTUS was disrespectful? Please comment below.
I Peter 3:1, 3-6 NKJV
Wives, likewise, be submissive to your
own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may
be won by the conduct of their wives, Do not let your adornment be merely
outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let
it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a
gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. For in this
manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned
themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham,
calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with
Marriage is quite the ride. Some scary parts, some thrilling parts, some boring parts and for those who have never been married some parts where you do not know what is coming next. But you stood in line, you knew it was a ride, you heard the screams, you saw the pictures, you heard from others who have experienced it, you gave them your ticket, sat in that seat, put your seat belt on, and you took off. You cannot get off until the ride is over, usually. It does not matter if you are crying, if you bumped your head, you threw up or whatever you are staying on that ride until it comes to an end. Just like marriage, you not only made a vow to your spouse but to GOD and that right there is no joke. Unfortunately, in marriages people do not stay to the end, they give up even though they knew what they were getting into.
I absolutely love the thrill of marriage. Sometimes it is unbearable and I cry my little heart out and a lot of times it’s great. There are of course your mundane times where you feel like you are not going anywhere. But through it all I have my GOD who is my everything and sometimes I forget but He always reminds me.
In the scripture Peter talks about the characteristics, roles, and what to do as a wife. This is very hard to swallow for many people do to culture and just people wanting to do them! But lets look at it.
1) Be submissive to your own husband
2) Your beauty should be meek and quiet where people can see
3) Be attentive to other Godly women
The first part many women hate but it is good not only for our husbands and future husbands but good for us. I work at being submissive to my husband and have found joy in doing so. I struggle though every day and wonder if I will ever have it down but I still work at it for many reasons. When I see my husband I see the God in him. I serve the God in him and I love the God in him. My husband is a hard man but because I made a vow first to my God to marry this man forever I submit even harder. When I cook his dinner it is unto God, when I clean the house it is unto God, whatever I do for my husband it is unto God. Colossians 3:23 says, “whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters. Submitting to my husband is submitting to God. Do you want to know the reasons why I do so? Well Ephesians 5:25 says for husbands to love their wives as Christ loves the church. I want that love from my husband. He may not ever love me as much as I want him to but does that mean for me to stop submitting? NOT AT ALL… remember what I do is unto the Lord. But isn’t it beautiful how Christ love the church so much!!! Women love that type of love.
Marriage is the earthly connection for the Lord Groom and His Church Bride. The church submitted to the Lord. The Lord submitted to do the will of His Father and if we call ourselves Christians we are supposed to walk like Christ so why shouldn’t we submit.
Another reason is because I follow the word of God and I obey with all of my might to do what He says do even when others are doing what they are supposed to do. I realize I am accountable for myself and therefore I have to do the will of God.
The second part which comes to me naturally but I cannot stand it. That was the previous blog I wrote. That meek and quiet spirit. But the scripture says that our beauty should not only be jewels and clothes but come from within showing a meek and quiet spirit which is precious in the sight of the Lord. That last part oh my gosh, precious in the sight of the Lord remember what I said earlier what I do is unto God. I love God and I love that he loves me back and the things I do excites Him! May not excite my husband but my heavenly Father oh yeah. Ok I can bear to be meek and quiet. What does that mean though. Well you are not snapping at the drop of a dime. You hold your composure in tight situations. You are kind and gentle you do not harm people with the words or actions you may want to use. People love to be around that spirit. It brings peace in the middle of the storm. How many of you have such beauty? When you see someone loud and tripping for no reason ready to fight or the silliest things what do you see? You see all these gorgeous women all dressed up but so many are ugly on the inside. We wives and future wives must learn that skill and hone it to our own. We need to embrace that not only for God but the sake of our dear husbands. I know men would love to come home to peace after a long hard day of work not loud disrespectful women. The want sweet kind words that exhort them and honor and respect them. This is no easy task but once you do it, do it again and again and again until it becomes habit and then it becomes a part of you.
I joined my husband’s church for a few reasons and so I had to meet new people. I really connected with my First Lady whom I love! She Rocks! But she has been a great mentor, role model and wise counsel for me as a wife. The third part is to be attentive to Godly wives. The scripture gives us a model, Sarah, who obeyed Abraham… Is there a wife that you can confide in, who can give you wise counsel, whose marriage is Godly? My first lady and her husband have told us it hasn’t always been easy but then something clicked and now have an impressive marriage. I love their marriage. They have fun and joke around. They encourage each other and love each other. That is one of the Holy, Godly wives that I set my eyes and ways on. You cannot follow just anybody’s steps and ways so be careful who you focus in on. Be careful of the company you keep because you start taking on their ways and it may not always be good!
As I write this, I feel so good about this passage in the bible. I was nervous to dig into it but God has changed my heart and in love with doing His will.
If you have any questions or comments please feel free to share. I really want you to! I would love for this to be an open dialogue so get your friends in here!
Peace and God Bless,
My husband and I recently celebrated our 1 year anniversary. It
definitely was a learning and growth experience for the both of us. They say the
first year is usually the hardest, I think they had my marriage in mind when
they said that. I was having a tough couple of days and sent my First Lady a
message of defeat and this was her response, “This
is the time to prove God at his word. We sit under some dynamic teaching:
learning about principles and precepts from the Word of God to transform our
lives. What good is the Word if we don’t work the Word in our life. What kind of
marriage do you want to have? Write it down. Here is a sample confession that
you can speak over your life daily. God
your word says, what you have joined together, let no one tear apart, so I thank
you for joining Prince and I together and no one will be able to tear us apart
from you or each other. I thank you that Prince loves me like Christ loves the
church and will give himself for me. I will honor and respect my husband and
submit to the vision he has for our family.”
That put me back into perspective… this was a marriage joined by God. I am not about
to let it fall apart over some things that are not and will never be bigger than
my God! So what really stood out to me was the question, what kind of marriage
do you want to have? Funny question because what we watch on movies and on
fairytales the majority of it is the chase, the adventure in dating and courting
and then it Is the end, “And they lived Happily Ever After” You see many of us
are just excited about that part and once they reach that goal they have no idea
of what they want to come next. Sure Kids and a house but what is it that will
make the marriage flourish? So what happens after? What is my happily ever
Because I want my marriage to be blessed and pleasing to God I want that biblical holy
marriage, I want my marriage to be written by GOD and if I obey the principles
in God’s word He will give me the desires of my heart (Psalms 37:4). So where
there is no vision the people perish (Pro 29:18).
MY HAPPILY EVER AFTER NNOOOTTT!!!!
MY VISION FOR MARRIAGE the BIBLICAL WAY! Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.
1) I want my husband to be led by Christ as he leads the household
(Eph 5:23). I will put my faith in my husband as he follows Christ. That is the
role and position that God has appointed him to be in. I am to submit to my
Husband as he submits to Christ. Ladies, if your husband is not Christian or not
stepping in his role does this mean to stop submitting to him? No not at all, if
anything submit even more. Remember we are serving and submitting to the God in
our husbands. We want to make sure we step up and make sure the rest our
following God. Once your husband finds his rightful place step back ladies and
exhort your hubby.
2) I want my husband to love me as Christ loves the church, Eph
5:25 says that He loved her so much that He gave His life for her. He made her
holy and cleansed her with the word. He loved her like he loved himself. I know
that we as humans cannot fathom the amount of love God has for us but I am just
going to marvel in it. Remember God is our everything. Our husbands may never
love us as much as we want them to love us but God!!! 3)
I want that passionate fire-that eros type of love. I absolutely love the book
song of Solomon. Their love and passion for one another…
Ch 1:2-Let him kiss
me with the kisses of his mouth--
For yourb]'>[b] love is
better than wine
Weeee not that is a love story and a love story written by God! That love where
you are bragging to your friends of how amazing he is and how he makes you
feel. Sol Ch 2:4-7He brought me to the banqueting
And his banner over me was
love.Sustain me with cakes of
raisins, Refresh me with apples, For I am lovesick.His left hand is under my head,
And his right hand embraces
me. I charge you, O
daughters of Jerusalem, By the
gazelles or by the does of the field, Do not stir up
nor awaken love Until it pleases.
Youneed to read Song of Solomon. 4)
I want to be that Ezer Kenegdo- My husbands helpmeet Gen 2:18-
It is not good for man to be alone. Two are definitely better than 1. I want to
be helpful and not a hindrance for my husband I want to be able to contribute to
the household a=in many form and I want him to want me to do it! I want my
husband to love my help! This leads me to my next point… 5) A
proverbs 31 woman--- WOW… I wrote a blog about this a while back check here.
Need I say more!
6) I want to be fruitful and multiply in Genisis there are different scriptures about being fruitful and multiply. I want this in children, businesses, blessing people and so much more!
7) Leave a legacy Genesis 17: 19
Then God said, "Yes, but your
wife Sarah will bear you a son, and you will call him Isaac. I will establish my
covenant with him as an everlasting covenant for his descendants after
And as for Ishmael, I have heard
you: I will surely bless him; I will make him fruitful and will greatly increase
his numbers. He will be the father of twelve rulers, and I will make him into a
8) Would love to have a business together or ministry like Priscilla and Acquila Acts 18:3, they were tentmakers. I know because I talk a lot my hubby probably does not want me working with him 8 hours of the day lol BUT MINISTRY YES!!!
9) Wealth and Prosperity, And to rely on God for my every need And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus (Phil 4:19). And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that having all sufficiency in all things at all times, you may abound in every good work. 2 Cor 9:8. Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, Eph 3:20.
Well this is just a few things :) A woman with a plan a vision! What is your vision for your marriage?
I Peter 3:1, 3-6 NKJV
Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.
I grew up a sweet and shy young lady. I was never quick to anger or I never fought I just lived like everything was good and it was for me. I had many friends and we enjoyed each other. Sometimes I look back though, I felt that my kindness was taken for weakness I felt that people just walked all over me and used me because I was so kind and forgiving and sweet.
I learned behaviors from my mother who was of course kind and gentle and sweet. She was never angry and she never yelled at people she just was kind and gentle and loving in all that she did. People came up to me and said your mother's so sweet I can't see her ever getting angry I bet she's just so nice at home and she was. And because the apple doesn't fall far from the tree I was my mother's daughter and I was just like her. I had her demeanor, her attitude, the way she walks, the way she talks and I love it because I'm just so blessed to be able to see the light in the way I do and embrace it and show people that love and kindness that Christ shows us.
As I got older my passiveness became passive aggressive and life became hard and I got angry but I never showed it because It wasn't me to yell and curse people out. I was that lady that gave people second chances and moreover more chances on top of chances unknowingly. It wasn't until I got married when I fully realized how God loves us and gave us chances on top of chances on top of chances and gave us grace and mercy forgave us over and over.
Marriage is hard work, people hurt each others feelings they do things that cause you to just I want to hurt each other. They may not act the way you want them to, they may not do what you want them to do right away and you just get so frustrated because you think, this is not the marriage that you expected.
My husband has done some really hurtful things not on purpose but just because he has never been married and does not know how to go about his actions and I know I have hurt him as well. I have been learning how God loves us all, the things that we do to Him but he still loves us, how awesome is that! About a month ago my husband really did some some work in our marriage that made me want to give it up and the scripture above, I questioned that, I hated it.The part where they speak about us women being adorned in a quiet and meek spirit I've been living that my whole entire life and now that I'm married and things have been going wrong I have been still having that quiet and meek spirit.
In that situation I did not want to be quiet and I did not want to be meek I wanted to be a Hellraiser I wanted to curse people out I was tired of being seen as the sweet kind quiet lady that people knew me to be. I felt like my quietness was not being heard. I felt like my kindness was being taken for granted. I felt like I was forgiving and forgiving and forgiving but kept being hurt over and over.
Some people that knew my situation dug into it too deep and was like I would not have let it go down like that you are good, I would have cursed them out I would have done this or that and I struggle with that because I had every right to be angry and upset but what do I do I ask questions calmly I talk about it I express how I feel in a calm an upset manner but no cursing no yelling yes I'm hurt but I don't think anything would have gotten resolved if I had resulted to such behavior.
Every time I thought about getting angry and yelling and doing all that craziness this scripture kept popping up in my head and I realize God was like that's why you are the way you are and you need to be still and show other people the God in you. I realized God couldn't get the glory if I in all my flesh reacted the way I wanted to. God wouldn't have been able to bless other people through my actions if I would have acted in my flesh. This is where we see how God can continue to love and forgive us and that is how we need to show that through forgiving and showing love to other people.
Another thing I realized is that a lot of the things that we go through is not for us and is for other people, to be a blessing to other people, to show the God in us to other people so they realize that our situation doesn't have to stay this way and that what I see now is not in my future.Just imagine if I had acted belligerent and crazy what would people see? They would be like oh that girl is just as crazy as me why would I want to get in this situation or how can I praise God or thank God in my situation they wouldn't be able to get that. I thank God that I was put in this situation so that he can get the glory so that others can be blessed so that others can see the light and how God can bring that light.
Stay tuned for the next couple of blogs where we dig into this scripture of the quiet and meek spirit, of how to be submissive to our husbands and how to be that biblical wife. Be sure to comments and share this with others. Please give encouraging words.
Peace and Blessings,
This is part 2 of Virtuous Women Speaking Wisely...
Proverbs 31:26 MSG The Message When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say, and she always says it kindly.
Proverbs 31:26 KJV King James Version She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
My husband painted this idea of words so beautifully, he said he had a vision where everything he said he saw. He saw them float out of his mouth and watched each word and phrase being carefully watched and chosen for good or for evil. He said he saw God and the enemy scooping the words he said and then putting them to work in your life. Proverbs 18:21 says "Death and life [are] in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof." So what fruit are you eating? Death or Life?As a virtuous woman, we have to be careful of the words we choose. When we speak it should be something of substance, something that encourages growth, kind words. The problem many face is that we are putting ill thoughts and messages in our minds and that is what is coming out. We have listened to too many people telling us that we are not worthy of anything great and we believe it but the deathly part is that we tell someone else the same thing and then they believe it. 2 Corinthians 4:13 -
We having the same spirit of faith, according as it is written, I believed, and therefore have I spoken; we also believe, and therefore speak" It is a cyclical effect that is deteriorating our women. So many women do not know how to speak kindly to one another. I work for Girl Scouts and most of my girls speak so meanly to the other girls. They yell, talk about each other and have the worst attitude towards each other. I can just imagine that they hear it from their parents a lot at home. It is very sad to watch these girls spew out words that are so damaging and when asked about it they have no remorse. We cannot be like that as Christian women, we have to speak out of love. God is love. One thing to remember is that we have have to believe we are a virtuous kind of woman, we have to see and believe our value and worth. If we do not see good in ourselves we cannot give good or see the good in others. Would you want to be tutored by someone who continued to fail a class? Why would you want to hear encouragement from someone who cannot encourage their selves. So the question is how do you begin to speak words of worth, words spoken kindly, and words of love that will encourage and uplift your sisters and brothers? Well we can begin with the BIBLE... God's love letter to us. This gives you all the instruction you need other things are just supplemental.Let's put this into action:
- Start seeing the good in you. Speak kind thoughts about yourself daily. Fall in love with yourself. A common phrase is if you don't love yourself then who will? GOD WILL though!! That is when you refer to the Love letter God wrote to us: The Bible.
- See the good in others. It is so easy to see what is wrong with people. If we shift our thinking to seeing and acknowledging the good in people more than the bad that will definitely help the words that will come out of your mouth for good and not evil.
- Read positive literature, watch positive movies, listen to positive music. Remember what you put in will come out.
- Every time you think or even say something negative follow it up with good to cancel it out. Eventually there will be mostly good coming out of our mouths.
Women, let's work on stepping into our roles as virtuous, Christ-like women of God. I dare you to be more attentive to the things you say out loud, to people, about yourself see if the good out weighs the bad and if it doesn't I challenge you to do better the next day!Thanks for reading! Please feel free to comment and share!!! Be on the look out for new blogs! Cicely