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Proverbs 31:26 She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. 

Have you ever heard a woman speak the nastiest words that made you sick to your stomach? Have you ever heard a wife speak ill of her husband? What about mothers to their children. What is in will come out. So what are these women putting in their selves? Not quite the WORD!
In Proverbs 31 this chapter speaks of a virtuous woman. This virtuous woman, the word speaks of,has raised the bar very high. It has set the tone of that Godly woman, that Godly Wife.

This virtuous woman speaks wisdom. How does one gain such wisdom? Proverbs 4:5, "Get wisdom, get insight" SO how do you get it? Well lets look through Proverbs. Do you really want it? Do you desire it? Proverbs 4:8 says, "Prize her highly and she will exalt you; she will honor you for your embrace." Wisdom it is not easily accessible, if you desire wisdom and you perceive it to have much value she will honor you. You have to seek it like silver, and search for it as for hidden treasure, (Proverbs 2:4). You want the rewards you have to put in the work.

Remember what you put in will come out, so we need to put in the word of God. We need to study it and meditate on it! We need to become the word. Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit (18:21). What we speak needs to be filled with the Holy Word. Joshua 1:8 ESV This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success. Deuteronomy 11:18-23 ESV “You shall therefore lay up these words of mine in your heart and in your soul, and you shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall teach them to your children, talking of them when you are sitting in your house, and when you are walking by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise..." Women are the emotional beings and we have so much on our hearts yet the most important thing that should be there is the Word of God. When it is in us it becomes us.

Now there is a really cool guy in the bible named Solomon. He was the WISEST man. How did he get his wisdom? He PRAYED. God said, "Because you have asked this and have not asked for yourself long life or riches or the life of your enemies, but have asked for yourself understanding to discern what is right, behold now I do according to your word" (1 Kings 3:11). We women already feel that we KNOW EVERYTHING... which is so far from the truth but if you do knowing and wisdom are two different things that will definitely rock your world. We must pray for this wisdom, wisdom dealing with your husband, your children, friends, families and life in general. If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God (James 1:5).

Now my beautiful women of virtue when you open your mouth what will be filtered through wisdom or ignorance.

Remember to get wisdom you have to:
  1. Value it by desiring it. Prize it! Wisdom is gold and like I said will rock your world for better!
  2. Study the word... Get God inside of you. Study how He wants you to be as His child. What is in you will come out of you.
  3. Pray for it! If you do not ask for what you want how are you going to get that thing? Talk to God about it and listen to Him.

Look for Part 2 of What are the words coming out of your mouth, coming soon!

Go on beautiful women and get wisdom!

Love Ya,


Proverbs 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.
God LOVES MARRIAGE wouldn't you agree? If you do not this site will show you how much he loves for a Husband to find a Wife.
Many of you who read this are either married, in progress towards marriage, or wanting to be married. Few people do not want to be married and that is ok.

This scripture can go in so many directions but for right now we are going to focus on "findeth a wife"

I was listening to my pastor the other Sunday and the biggest thing that resonated with me was his emphasis on "When man finds a WIFE"- not a girlfriend, not some woman he met, not a female that does not know their worth, self etc but a WIFE.
So what does that mean? It does not mean that she is already married. Being married does not automatically determine that you are a wife. You can paint a picture but that does not mean you are an artist. You can walk into a school does not mean you are a student. Because  you watch House does not make you a doctor.These titles have characteristics, responsibilities, and behaviors. So when the scripture reads, when a man findeth a WIFE... she is already a wife. She is already displaying the behaviors a wife would do. She already has the character that wives possess and is taking care of responsibilities God has put on her shoulder.

I realized that I was made to be a wife and a great one at that! :) I was a wife before my husband married me.

The couple of years of years leading up to my marriage I knew I wanted to be married and was destined to be married. I was in a relationship with a man that was not going anywhere and I knew that. Funny thing is I told him that I want to be married and if I meet someone that has that potential then I am going to pursue that opportunity and he was like I understand. When I met my husband we talked and upfront we both were like I am not dating just to be dating I want it to result into marriage. So we were preparing ourselves. I know I was. I started getting everything in order. Job, saving money, deepening my relationship with Christ, preparing for the future, I actually knew he was going to be my husband, I do not know how specifically but little confirmations.

For those that are seeking marriage and a biblical one, what are you doing to get yourself prepared? To be honest I do not think you are ever 100% prepared but you can be 100% ready to take on the challenge.

Things to think about:
  • Relationship with Christ- How is it? What will happen to it when you get in a relationship with some amazing person? Will you focus your attention more on the person or stayed on God? Will God only be necessary when things are not going smoothly? Will you compromise your faith and beliefs because they do not believe the same? Take time to think about this and create a non negotiable list.
  • Who are you and what do you have to offer to the table? - Marriage is let's just say it a business there are two individuals that want to merge to create one large more impressive business. What is it about you that no one can touch. Are you still doing the same things as 5 years ago? Have you grown as a person, in your career, etc? What sets you apart from other people. Is it your personality? How you treat people? What are you bringing to the table? What assets tangible and intangible do you have that can provide more substance to this relationship? It is so good to look at yourself in the overall big picture- are you bringing gain or shame? What about...
  • Finances- Are you in debt? What is in your bank account? Are there going to be creditors after you? Your career/job is it where you want to be financially? DO you even like where you work? If you hate your job your emotions and feeling lead to behaviors and can mess up a relationship...
  • Are you a HAPPY POSITIVE person? - I personally cannot stand being around a depressed complaining all the time man or woman. If you do not like your situation then change it. Make sure when you enter into a new relationship you are on a good positive foundation. Make sure you are emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically ready.
  • Stand your ground- What are your beliefs? What are your values? What are your non-compromising, nonnegotiable? What standards do you have that are too high or not relevant to your situation? You cannot honestly be living below poverty and expect someone to just come and sweep you up off your feet and take care of you, movies are not real!  What about your kids? Or theirs? Family situation for both?

So after all the thinking and contemplating, are you a wife? Are you a husband? Are there some things that you could work on to be an added asset and not a subtractor or divider in this area? Women you can look all you want for a man but it has to be him that realizes you are a wife.

Tell me your thoughts and opinions.

Peace and Blessings