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This is part 2 of Virtuous Women Speaking Wisely...

Proverbs 31:26 MSG The Message When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say, and she always says it kindly.
Proverbs 31:26 KJV King James Version She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
My husband painted this idea of words so beautifully, he said he had a vision where everything he said he saw. He saw them float out of his mouth and watched each word and phrase being carefully watched and chosen for good or for evil. He said he saw God and the enemy scooping the words he said and then putting them to work in your life. Proverbs 18:21 says "Death and life [are] in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof." So what fruit are you eating? Death or Life?

As a virtuous woman, we have to be careful of the words we choose. When we speak it should be something of substance, something that encourages growth, kind words. The problem many face is that we are putting ill thoughts and messages in our minds and that is what is coming out. We have listened to too many people telling us that we are not worthy of anything great and we believe it but the deathly part is that we tell someone else the same thing and then they believe it. 2 Corinthians 4:13 - We having the same spirit of faith, according as it is written, I believed, and therefore have I spoken; we also believe, and therefore speak" It is a cyclical effect that is deteriorating our women. So many women do not know how to speak kindly to one another.

I work for Girl Scouts and most of my girls speak so meanly to the other girls. They yell, talk about each other and have the worst attitude towards each other. I can just imagine that they hear it from their parents a lot at home. It is very sad to watch these girls spew out words that are so damaging and when asked about it they have no remorse. We cannot be like that as Christian women, we have to speak out of love. God is love.

One thing to remember is that we have have to believe we are a virtuous kind of woman, we have to see and believe our value and worth. If we do not see good in ourselves we cannot give good or see the good in others. Would you want to be tutored by someone who continued to fail a class? Why would you want to hear encouragement from someone who cannot encourage their selves. So the question is how do you begin to speak words of worth, words spoken kindly, and words of love that will encourage and uplift your sisters and brothers?

Well we can begin with the BIBLE... God's love letter to us. This gives you all the instruction you need other things are just supplemental.

Let's put this into action:
  • Start seeing the good in you. Speak kind thoughts about yourself daily. Fall in love with yourself. A common phrase is if you don't love yourself then who will? GOD WILL though!! That is when you refer to the Love letter God wrote to us: The Bible.
  • See the good in others. It is so easy to see what is wrong with people. If we shift our thinking to seeing and acknowledging the good in people more than the bad that will definitely help the words that will come out of your mouth for  good and not evil.
  • Read positive literature, watch positive movies, listen to positive music. Remember what you put in will come out.
  • Every time you think or even say something negative follow it up with good to cancel it out. Eventually there will be mostly good coming out of our mouths.
Women, let's work on stepping into our roles as virtuous, Christ-like women of God.

I dare you to be more attentive to the things you say out loud, to people, about yourself see if the good out weighs the bad and if it doesn't I challenge you to do better the next day!

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Proverbs 31:26 She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. 

Have you ever heard a woman speak the nastiest words that made you sick to your stomach? Have you ever heard a wife speak ill of her husband? What about mothers to their children. What is in will come out. So what are these women putting in their selves? Not quite the WORD!
In Proverbs 31 this chapter speaks of a virtuous woman. This virtuous woman, the word speaks of,has raised the bar very high. It has set the tone of that Godly woman, that Godly Wife.

This virtuous woman speaks wisdom. How does one gain such wisdom? Proverbs 4:5, "Get wisdom, get insight" SO how do you get it? Well lets look through Proverbs. Do you really want it? Do you desire it? Proverbs 4:8 says, "Prize her highly and she will exalt you; she will honor you for your embrace." Wisdom it is not easily accessible, if you desire wisdom and you perceive it to have much value she will honor you. You have to seek it like silver, and search for it as for hidden treasure, (Proverbs 2:4). You want the rewards you have to put in the work.

Remember what you put in will come out, so we need to put in the word of God. We need to study it and meditate on it! We need to become the word. Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit (18:21). What we speak needs to be filled with the Holy Word. Joshua 1:8 ESV This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success. Deuteronomy 11:18-23 ESV “You shall therefore lay up these words of mine in your heart and in your soul, and you shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall teach them to your children, talking of them when you are sitting in your house, and when you are walking by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise..." Women are the emotional beings and we have so much on our hearts yet the most important thing that should be there is the Word of God. When it is in us it becomes us.

Now there is a really cool guy in the bible named Solomon. He was the WISEST man. How did he get his wisdom? He PRAYED. God said, "Because you have asked this and have not asked for yourself long life or riches or the life of your enemies, but have asked for yourself understanding to discern what is right, behold now I do according to your word" (1 Kings 3:11). We women already feel that we KNOW EVERYTHING... which is so far from the truth but if you do knowing and wisdom are two different things that will definitely rock your world. We must pray for this wisdom, wisdom dealing with your husband, your children, friends, families and life in general. If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God (James 1:5).

Now my beautiful women of virtue when you open your mouth what will be filtered through wisdom or ignorance.

Remember to get wisdom you have to:
  1. Value it by desiring it. Prize it! Wisdom is gold and like I said will rock your world for better!
  2. Study the word... Get God inside of you. Study how He wants you to be as His child. What is in you will come out of you.
  3. Pray for it! If you do not ask for what you want how are you going to get that thing? Talk to God about it and listen to Him.

Look for Part 2 of What are the words coming out of your mouth, coming soon!

Go on beautiful women and get wisdom!

Love Ya,