Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.
I learned behaviors from my mother who was of course kind and gentle and sweet. She was never angry and she never yelled at people she just was kind and gentle and loving in all that she did. People came up to me and said your mother's so sweet I can't see her ever getting angry I bet she's just so nice at home and she was. And because the apple doesn't fall far from the tree I was my mother's daughter and I was just like her. I had her demeanor, her attitude, the way she walks, the way she talks and I love it because I'm just so blessed to be able to see the light in the way I do and embrace it and show people that love and kindness that Christ shows us.
As I got older my passiveness became passive aggressive and life became hard and I got angry but I never showed it because It wasn't me to yell and curse people out. I was that lady that gave people second chances and moreover more chances on top of chances unknowingly. It wasn't until I got married when I fully realized how God loves us and gave us chances on top of chances on top of chances and gave us grace and mercy forgave us over and over.
Marriage is hard work, people hurt each others feelings they do things that cause you to just I want to hurt each other. They may not act the way you want them to, they may not do what you want them to do right away and you just get so frustrated because you think, this is not the marriage that you expected.
My husband has done some really hurtful things not on purpose but just because he has never been married and does not know how to go about his actions and I know I have hurt him as well. I have been learning how God loves us all, the things that we do to Him but he still loves us, how awesome is that! About a month ago my husband really did some some work in our marriage that made me want to give it up and the scripture above, I questioned that, I hated it.The part where they speak about us women being adorned in a quiet and meek spirit I've been living that my whole entire life and now that I'm married and things have been going wrong I have been still having that quiet and meek spirit.
In that situation I did not want to be quiet and I did not want to be meek I wanted to be a Hellraiser I wanted to curse people out I was tired of being seen as the sweet kind quiet lady that people knew me to be. I felt like my quietness was not being heard. I felt like my kindness was being taken for granted. I felt like I was forgiving and forgiving and forgiving but kept being hurt over and over.
Some people that knew my situation dug into it too deep and was like I would not have let it go down like that you are good, I would have cursed them out I would have done this or that and I struggle with that because I had every right to be angry and upset but what do I do I ask questions calmly I talk about it I express how I feel in a calm an upset manner but no cursing no yelling yes I'm hurt but I don't think anything would have gotten resolved if I had resulted to such behavior.
Every time I thought about getting angry and yelling and doing all that craziness this scripture kept popping up in my head and I realize God was like that's why you are the way you are and you need to be still and show other people the God in you. I realized God couldn't get the glory if I in all my flesh reacted the way I wanted to. God wouldn't have been able to bless other people through my actions if I would have acted in my flesh. This is where we see how God can continue to love and forgive us and that is how we need to show that through forgiving and showing love to other people.
Another thing I realized is that a lot of the things that we go through is not for us and is for other people, to be a blessing to other people, to show the God in us to other people so they realize that our situation doesn't have to stay this way and that what I see now is not in my future.Just imagine if I had acted belligerent and crazy what would people see? They would be like oh that girl is just as crazy as me why would I want to get in this situation or how can I praise God or thank God in my situation they wouldn't be able to get that. I thank God that I was put in this situation so that he can get the glory so that others can be blessed so that others can see the light and how God can bring that light.
Stay tuned for the next couple of blogs where we dig into this scripture of the quiet and meek spirit, of how to be submissive to our husbands and how to be that biblical wife. Be sure to comments and share this with others. Please give encouraging words.
Peace and Blessings,