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I Peter 3:1, 3-6 NKJV
Wives, likewise, be submissive to your
own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may
be won by the conduct of their wives, Do not let your adornment be merely
outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let
it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a
gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. For in this
manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned
themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham,
calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with
any terror.
Marriage is quite the ride. Some scary parts, some thrilling parts, some boring parts and for those who have never been married some parts where you do not know what is coming next. But you stood in line, you knew it was a ride, you heard the screams, you saw the pictures, you heard from others who have experienced it, you gave them your ticket, sat in that seat, put your seat belt on, and you took off. You cannot get off until the ride is over, usually. It does not matter if you are crying, if you bumped your head, you threw up or whatever you are staying on that ride until it comes to an end. Just like marriage, you not only made a vow to your spouse but to GOD and that right there is no joke. Unfortunately, in marriages people do not stay to the end, they give up even though they knew what they were getting into.

I absolutely love the thrill of marriage. Sometimes it is unbearable and I cry my little heart out and a lot of times it’s great. There are of course your mundane times where you feel like you are not going anywhere. But through it all I have my GOD who is my everything and sometimes I forget but He always reminds me.

In the scripture Peter talks about the characteristics, roles, and what to do as a wife. This is very hard to swallow for many people do to culture and just people wanting to do them! But lets look at it.

1)      Be submissive to your own husband

2)      Your beauty should be meek and quiet where people can see

3)      Be attentive to other Godly women

The first part many women hate but it is good not only for our husbands and future husbands but good for us. I work at being submissive to my husband and have found joy in doing so. I struggle though every day and wonder if I will ever have it down but I still work at it for many reasons. When I see my husband I see the God in him. I serve the God in him and I love the God in him. My husband is a hard man but because I made a vow first to my God to marry this man forever I submit even harder. When I cook his dinner it is unto God, when I clean the house it is unto God, whatever I do for my husband it is unto God. Colossians 3:23 says, “whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters. Submitting to my husband is submitting to God. Do you want to know the reasons why I do so? Well Ephesians 5:25  says for husbands to love their wives as Christ loves the church. I want that love from my husband. He may not ever love me as much as I want him to but does that mean for me to stop submitting? NOT AT ALL… remember what I do is unto the Lord. But isn’t it beautiful how Christ love the church so much!!! Women love that type of love.

Marriage is the earthly connection for the Lord Groom and His Church Bride. The church submitted to the Lord. The Lord submitted to do the will of His Father and if we call ourselves Christians we are supposed to walk like Christ so why shouldn’t we submit.

Another reason is because I follow the word of God and I obey with all of my might to do what He says do even when others are doing what they are supposed to do. I realize I am accountable for myself and therefore I have to do the will of God.

The second part which comes to me naturally but I cannot stand it. That was the previous blog I wrote. That meek and quiet spirit. But the scripture says that our beauty should not only be jewels and clothes but come from within showing a meek and quiet spirit which is precious in the sight of the Lord. That last part oh my gosh, precious in the sight of the Lord remember what I said earlier what I do is unto God. I love God and I love that he loves me back and the things I do excites Him! May not excite my husband but my heavenly Father oh yeah. Ok I can bear to be meek and quiet. What does that mean though. Well you are not snapping at the drop of a dime. You hold your composure in tight situations. You are kind and gentle you do not harm people with the words or actions you may want to use. People love to be around that spirit. It brings peace in the middle of the storm. How many of you have such beauty? When you see someone loud and tripping for no reason ready to fight or the silliest things what do you see? You see all these gorgeous women all dressed up but so many are ugly on the inside. We wives and future wives must learn that skill and hone it to our own. We need to embrace that not only for God but the sake of our dear husbands. I know men would love to come home to peace after a long hard day of work not loud disrespectful women. The want sweet kind words that exhort them and honor and respect them. This is no easy task but once you do it, do it again and again and again until it becomes habit and then it becomes a part of you.

I joined my husband’s church for a few reasons and so I had to meet new people. I really connected with my First Lady whom I love! She Rocks! But she has been a great mentor, role model and wise counsel for me as a wife. The third part is to be attentive to Godly wives. The scripture gives us a model, Sarah, who obeyed Abraham… Is there a wife that you can confide in, who can give you wise counsel, whose marriage is Godly? My first lady and her husband have told us it hasn’t always been easy but then something clicked and now have an impressive marriage. I love their marriage. They have fun and joke around. They encourage each other and love each other. That is one of the Holy, Godly wives that I set my eyes and ways on. You cannot follow just anybody’s steps and ways so be careful who you focus in on. Be careful of the company you keep because you start taking on their ways and it may not always be good!

As I write this, I feel so good about this passage in the bible. I was nervous to dig into it but God has changed my heart and in love with doing His will.

If you have any questions or comments please feel free to share. I really want you to!  I would love for this to be an open dialogue so get your friends in here!


Peace and God Bless,


Ja'Mira Dixon..... Future Wife Extraordinaire
6/5/2013 02:22:19 am

This is absolutely beautiful... I am not yet a wife but after reading this i appreciate the beauty in submitting a lot more. I am one to believe that we as women are to submit to our husbands. He is head of household. God put him in that position, a position that is sacred and for that they deserve to be honored. Husbands are God's way of giving us a piece of himself. And I agree with you %100 when you say to honor our husbands is to honor God. I love God with all of me, and what better way to show that love than to honor the man he chose for me. I feel like submitting to your husband is like saying "job well done God, thank you for blessing me with a partner to do life with".

6/5/2013 03:36:05 am

Thank you so much beautiful woman of GOD!! Your words are encouraging!

"I feel like submitting to your husband is like saying "job well done God, thank you for blessing me with a partner to do life with"---- That is so awesome beautiful way to put it!!!

Peace and Blessings!

Deonte the Don
6/5/2013 03:44:25 am

From A Man Perspective I Feel That There Is A Pressure That We Deal With That Says We Make ALL The Decisions And Because We Are The Head I Know Some Men Take That To The Head. But Realistically A Woman Is A Helpmeet And So Its Okay
foR A Man To Ask His Wife For Assistance Or Even If She Is The Extrovert Of The Two. I Myself Am An Introvert So I Know My Wife Will Be The Opposite Because If I Met Another Introvert I Would Dominate Her But It Wouldn't Be In A Godly Way. I Know Personally For Me I Need A Woman Who Can Check Me At Times Because That's Just Me. If She Can't Do That I Will Run Over Her. That's Just Where I Am In Life Right Now. Some May Agree Or Disagree But Who Cares.

Also In A Union (Marriage) I Believe The Two Are Now One. So Being Able To Go To Your Mate For Advice And Someone You Can Be Totally Completely Honest With And Not Judged, I Think Is The Coolest Thing. And I Heard Today That The Person You Marry Becomes Literally Your Project That You Agree To Take On. Whether TheyaAre A Liar Or Cheater Or Thief, That's Something That You Have Agreed To Take On And Assist In Correcting. I Don't Think Anyone Is Perfect Before Marriage Because Ecclesiastes Says Even The Righteous Man Has Sons, So With That Said NOBODY Is Perfect But Someone Is Perfect For The Other!

Deonte that dude
6/5/2013 03:46:46 am

SINS...Not Sons...Typo sorry

6/5/2013 03:54:23 am

I totally agree that the wife is indeed the helpmeet. And love it! Sometimes men though get those egos where they dont want to ask for the help!!!

Your comment about the person becoming your project makes me laugh because I had a book idea with that title "My husband: My Project- my Ministry with the same thing you were talkling about!


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